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25 LIFE HACKS I’VE TAUGHT MYSELF AT 25

by Kat Bolinakat1

  1. Always be kind
    Whether you’re in a good or bad mood, whether you’re favored or treated with contempt, or whether you like the person or not. In ALL life situations, be kind. It’s gonna hurt sometimes but you can never go wrong by being the better person.
  1. Love and respect your parents.
    Whether you’re accepted or not, whether they support you or not. Don’t ever act smarter than them. A wise man honors his parents, despite all.
  1. Be smart about your money.
    Financial management, bro. No matter how much or little you have, set aside a percent of that for your savings. Or invest your money. There’s a lot of information on investing all over the internet or you can also get a financial adviser but the point is, start saving and growing your money! If you’re in your mid-twenties, you should have started several years ago but in case you haven’t, the best time is now! More than saving, you need to learn to give. Money is temporary. It comes and it goes. Don’t base your life on it. Don’t fall in love with it. Instead, learn to let go- share and give. The world needs more good and selfless people. Read more about giving here.
  1. Keep yourself fit.

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Exercise is mandatory and a basic human need. Fitness should be a priority and a lifestyle. You maximize your talents, skills, and good character when you live long and strong to put it into practice. Remember, life is a gift, a short gift. Let’s perform at our peak while we have it.

  1. Respect your boss/superior.

At all times and in all situations. Your boss may be the most difficult person you’ve ever met or you may believe you’re better and more competent. In whatever situation, choose to treat your superior with respect. You can also have opposing opinion on many things but always express yourself calmly and politely. If you can’t honor the man, at least honor the position. Remember, no slave is ever better than his master. He/she is your superior for a reason, try to learn from him/her as much as possible. If not, at least learn from the situation. There’s far greater learning in difficulty than in comfort.

  1. Initiate.

When you think you have the gift, boldness, skills and experience to lead, do it. Whenever it is right, initiate movement. Teach people to fight. Encourage people to speak up. You who have the skill to mobilize should do it, with the right principles and the right motive. The world needs more kind and loving and good leaders nowadays. If that’s you, lose your fear and start moving now.

  1. Shut up when you should.

There is a time to be silent and a time to speak up. A time to observe and a time to fight. Pursue wisdom and she will tell you the right response at the right time.

     8. Respond, don’t react.

When you are faced with difficult people and situations, PAUSE. Control yourself from giving immediate reaction. A lot of the most regretful words we’ve uttered and decisions we’ve made came out of anger and loss of self-control. Here’s what you do whenever you’re faced with a difficult situation: (1) pause and bring yourself together, (2) assess the situation, (3) strategize, and (4) execute strategy while maintaining maximum calmness. This will kill you inside but better this than having regrets.

     9. Volunteer.                                                                                                                                  kat3Someone somewhere who needs your help can’t pay for your services.

  1. Lovingly relate with others.
    Find the good in every person and you will overcome hate, anger, envy, and all sorts of differences (culture, beliefs, economical status, personality, etc). Respect others and what they stand for without compromising your own. Be kind even when its uncomfortable. We can never have too many friends. Master this and you will win at life.
  1. But choose the people you surround yourself with.
    Be kind to everybody but choose your core people.

Jim Rohn once said, “You are the average of the five people you surround yourself with.” You cannot control the people who come to your life and who persistently seek your company. But you have the choice as to how much time you would spend with each of them. Surround yourself with successful people. Hang out with those whom you can seek wisdom and discuss ideas with as well as those who inspire you to make things happen in your community.  Most importantly, ensure that you spend sufficient time with people who help build your character, lovingly point out your bad attitude and twisted worldview, and guide you on your path to the better version of yourself.

  1. Pursue wisdom.
    For wisdom is more precious than silver or gold. She will guide you and protect you. She will tell you what is right and just and fair. If you want to know where to go, what to do, what to say, pursue wisdom and you’ll know.
  1. Live your purpose.

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Decide upon your major definite purpose in life and then organize all your activities around it.” ~Brian Tracy.

You were made for a reason. Find that reason and accomplish it.

  1. Avoid conflict.
    As much as possible, avoid conflict. Overcome differences through respect whenever it’s difficult to love. Do not stir a fight. Do not provoke people to anger. Instead, aim to live harmoniously with others.
  1. Never stop learning.
    You can never have too much life skills. Read books. Explore cultures. Initiate conversations. Do whatever you like, just never stop growing.
  1. Pursue excellence.
    No excuses. Be excellent at all times and in all situations. Always be on top of yourself. Pursue learning. Practice. Persevere. Never stop. Never settle.
  1. Love with all your heart.

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Whether returned or not, love with all your heart. For where will loving sparingly take you? It may hurt and could hurt often. But the one who loves with all her heart lose nothing. Don’t fear, love with all your heart.

  1. Give your time and attention.
    It’s the best expression of love.
  1. Invest in the younger generation.

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The world is already full of crap. Whenever you can, share a little bit of wisdom to these children. Mold their character and teach them moral values. Theodore Roosevelt once said, “To educate a man in mind and not in morals is to educate a menace to society.”

 You may be unhappy of what’s going on in the world now but as you invest in the younger people, you can be most assured of a better tomorrow.

  1. Stay humble.
    No matter how far you think you’ve come, you are never above anybody. Don’t let your pride eat you. You lose many things with pride, you gain unexpected great things when you’re humble.
  1. PLAN.
    “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” – Benjamin Franklin. Lack of planning can cost you A LOT. Plan your day, plan your year, plan your life! Set goals! It can never be perfect but you can be most assured of that your life will be wayyyy better and productive when you plan than when you don’t.
  1. Don’t lose your temper.
    Learn to manage your anger. You lose all good things that could come out of a terrible situation when you lose your temper. Should you need to resolve an issue, do so with utmost calmness and grace. Always be the better person.
  1. Don’t hold grudges.
    Someone once said, “Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”
  1. Admit mistakes.
    Be humble enough to admit your mistakes. Learn to apologize when you’ve wronged someone. More importantly, be willing to change. When you admit your mistakes, you take the first step to becoming the better version of yourself.
  1. Invest in your strengths and keep it real.                                                                                    kat7Not a lot of people do. We love chasing what we don’t have. But to truly know your purpose, you have to make every effort to identify your natural strengths and abilities. Those are the things that make you unique. Then feed them, fuel them, and invest time and effort to develop them.  Be real to yourself. To be truly successful, self-discovery and development are crucial.

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Pursuer of passion and chaser of dreams. Kat Bolina is an events, marketing, and social media ninja who has a passion for serving the surf community and the indigenous peoples of the Philippines. She’s not based anywhere; she’s everywhere. She loves living life and writing about it. She is the founder and project manager of  Surf Odyssey Philippines (surfodyssey@gmail.com).

Follow her at http://thekatbolina.wordpress.com

 

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